It's free and private. Your answers are kept in this browser so you can come back and finish later, and nothing is uploaded. Print it for a slow conversation over a glass of wine, or send a partner a link.
Every item is something consenting adults do together, described in plain words. The list is there to start a conversation, not to tick boxes: a maybe is an invitation to talk.
How the kink list maker works
- 1Mark each itemYes means you're into it or want to try. Maybe means you're curious. No means it's not for you.
- 2Send a private linkThe link carries only your yes and maybe answers. Your no's never leave your device.
- 3Your partner fills in theirsThey open your link, answer the same list, and see what you both said yes or maybe to, and nothing else.
- 4Talk, then playStart with what you both said yes to, agree on limits and a safe word, and check in as you go.
What's on this yes no maybe list
The list has 61 items in eight groups, so you can breeze past what doesn't apply and slow down where it counts:
- Romance and affection: slow kisses, massages, candlelight, love notes and aftercare.
- Power and control: taking the lead, following instructions, brat play and switching roles.
- Bondage and restraint: blindfolds, silk scarves, padded cuffs and soft restraints.
- Sensation: light spanking, ice cubes, warm massage oil, feathers and scratching.
- Roleplay and fantasy: strangers at a bar, boss and assistant, costumes and fantasy characters.
- Voyeur and exhibition: private dances, mirrors, a lingerie show and flirty photos, for each other only.
- Toys and play: toys for couples, spicy dice, strip games and food play.
- Talk and texting: praise, dirty talk, sexting, voice notes and sharing fantasies.
How the partner compare keeps your no's private
When you share your list, the link holds a short code with your yes and maybe answers, in the part of the address after the # sign. Browsers don't send that part to websites, so your answers never reach our servers, and your no's aren't in the link at all.
Once your partner fills in their list, the matches screen shows three groups: things you both said yes to, things one of you said yes to and the other maybe, and things you both said maybe to. Anything one of you doesn't want simply never shows up, so nobody has to explain a no.
One caveat: the link itself holds your yes and maybe answers, so send it only to the person you made it for.
Talking about limits and safe words
A kink list works best as the start of a conversation. A few habits make that conversation easier:
- Hard limits are things that are never okay. Soft limits are maybes with conditions. Say which is which.
- Pick a safe word that won't come up by accident, and agree that it stops everything, no questions asked.
- Many couples use traffic lights: green means keep going, yellow means slow down, red means stop.
- Start with something you both said yes to, keep it short the first time, and talk afterward about what worked.
- Anyone can change an answer at any time. A yes today can be a no tomorrow.
Practice the conversation first
If saying it out loud feels awkward, practice with one of our girls. Tell her what's on your yes list and let her pick something: she stays in character and respects the limits you set. Try a dominant AI girlfriend, a scene in AI roleplay or some AI sexting. Curious what your answers say about you? Take the kink test.
Updated October 2026