Our Agreement
A consent and communication agreement between Partner A and Partner B.
1. Who we are
Partner A (Dominant) and Partner B (submissive) make this agreement together.
It starts on ____________. We review it on ____________, or sooner if either of us asks.
- We are both adults, 18 or older, and we enter this agreement freely, sober and informed.
- Nobody has been pressured into anything written here. Saying no is always allowed.
2. Consent and the right to stop
- Consent can be withdrawn at any moment, by either of us, for any reason.
- Either of us can stop any scene, or end this agreement, at any time, without argument, punishment or penalty.
- Anything not written here is off-limits until we've talked about it and both said yes.
- A yes to something once is not a yes forever. We ask again before we repeat it.
3. Safe words and signals
A safe word or signal is respected right away, every time, and is never punished or argued with.
- "Red" means stop now: the scene ends and we check in.
- "Yellow" means slow down or ease off, and check in.
- "Green" means all good, keep going.
- If speaking is hard: Drop whatever I'm holding, or tap three times.
4. Limits
Hard limits are never crossed. Soft limits only happen after we talk first, and then slowly.
Hard limits
- None listed yet. We talk about these before we play.
Soft limits
- None listed yet.
5. Check-ins
We check in after every scene: how we feel, what worked and what we'd change.
Either of us can ask for a check-in at any time, and it happens.
6. Protocols
These apply only as written, and only while this agreement is in place.
- A scene only starts after we both say green.
7. Aftercare
After every scene we make time for aftercare. What helps:
- Water and a snack
- Cuddling or being held
- Talking about how the scene went
8. Privacy
- What we do together stays between us.
- No photos, video or recordings without fresh permission each time.
- Either of us can ask the other to delete any photo or message, and it gets deleted.
9. Health and safety
- Sober play only: no alcohol, drugs or anything else that clouds judgment, before or during a scene.
- We share anything that affects play: injuries, health conditions, medications and allergies.
- Safety shears and a first-aid kit stay within reach whenever we use restraints.
- Nobody who is restrained is ever left alone.
- No restraint or pressure on the neck, ever.
10. Review, renegotiation and ending
- We can renegotiate any part of this agreement whenever either of us asks, and at every review.
- Either of us can end this agreement at any time just by saying so. Ending it ends every rule and protocol at once, and nobody owes an explanation.
Partner A (Dominant)
Date
Partner B (submissive)
Date
This agreement is a communication tool, not a legal contract. It isn't legally binding and can't make anyone do anything. Consent can be withdrawn at any moment. It's for sober, informed adults only.
