The idea of love languages comes from Gary Chapman's 1992 book The Five Love Languages, and the term is his. This is an unofficial quiz with our own questions, not affiliated with Chapman or his official quiz.
It takes about two minutes and runs entirely in your browser. You get a score for each language, a short explanation of your top one, tips to put it to use, and a link to share with a partner.
How the love language test works
- 1Pick one of two momentsEach question pairs two ways someone could show love. Choose the one that would mean more to you.
- 2Every language comes up 8 timesEach pair of languages appears twice, so none gets a head start.
- 3See your scoresYour top language comes with a description and tips. Your second one matters too.
- 4Compare with a partnerCopy a share link, have them take the quiz, and talk about what you each need.
The five love languages, explained
Each language is a different way of feeling cared for:
- Words of affirmation: compliments, encouragement and hearing it said out loud.
- Quality time: undivided attention, real conversation and plans just for the two of you.
- Receiving gifts: thoughtful presents, big or small, that show someone was thinking of you.
- Acts of service: help that makes your life easier, like taking a chore off your plate.
- Physical touch: hugs, holding hands, cuddling and closeness through the day.
How this love language test scores you
The quiz has 20 questions. Each one pairs two love languages, and every pair appears twice, so each language comes up 8 times. Your score for a language is the share of those 8 times you picked it: 6 out of 8 is 75%.
Close scores are common. If two languages are within a question or two of each other, both are part of how you feel loved.
A useful idea, not a science
Love languages are a popular way to talk about what makes you feel cared for. Studies of the idea have found mixed results, and some psychologists question whether anyone really has a single primary language (Wikipedia). So treat your result as a conversation starter, not a rule.
Using your result with a partner
Knowing your love language helps most when you say it out loud:
- Share your top two, and ask for one specific thing that fits each.
- Watch how your partner shows love. It's often the language they'd like back.
- Say thanks when they get it right. It keeps them doing it.
- Curious how you handle closeness and space? Try the attachment style quiz next.
Updated October 2026